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How Travel Changed My Relationship With Clothes and Belongings

travel changed my relationship with clothes

After a glorious semester in Italy spent basking in ancient architecture, engorging myself on countless afternoon gelatos, and, most importantly, living with just a suitcase of clothes and random belongings, I came home and did something a bit unexpected.

Instead of being excited with the reunion between myself and my closet full of clothes, I felt the exact opposite. I rebelled. I opened up my big swinging closet doors and instantly felt the weight of dozens of shirts, sweaters, pants and shoes upon my shoulders- shirts, sweaters, pants and shoes that were… not needed, not wanted, not used, and not conducive to the idea that I might head off on European adventures again in the future.

Because that was definitely my plan.

It was part of my reverse culture shock after study abroad. I refused to turn on my old cell phone for several days, avoiding both normal life and my friends from back home. I listened to all my Italian music CDs 24/7 trying to recreate the vibe of the previous months. I emailed with all my new study abroad friends, reminiscing the good times. And I cleared out my room, feverishly dumping anything and everything I felt like wasn’t useful or worthwhile. Bags, boxes and bins of things all got the cut.

throwing out unnecessary clothes

Now it’s not like I was a fashion queen or girly girl of any sorts, but I also wasn’t someone who was concerned with my over-accumulation of clothes and things in general. But at this point in time, I purged like I had never purged before. And it felt freeing.

I’m sure part of this had to do with my want to feel control over my life and situation when all I really wanted was to be thousands of miles away from home still. Another part was definitely the fact that, and I remember saying it out loud:

“I lived for the past few months with nothing but this one suitcase of clothes. And I was fine. I don’t need all of this stuff.”

So that was what I told my family, while inside, it went a little more like this:

“I lived for the past few months with nothing but this one suitcase of clothes. And I was fine. I don’t need all of this stuff. And I definitely don’t need it because I plan to get my butt back to Europe as soon as possible!”

So two things were happening at this time in my life:

I planned to travel more, and I realized that I could live with far fewer things in my life (which would in turn open myself up to being able to travel more and not feel weighed down).

And that’s how this all began, really. My future travels around the world, my obsession with living life with only what I need, the seed that would eventually grow into Her Packing List– it all began when I returned home from my semester in Italy nearly 11 years ago. That’s how travel completely changed my relationship with clothes and belongings, for the better.

travel made me want less

Written by Brooke

Brooke Schoenman runs the show at Her Packing List. Inspired from years of travel experience, Brooke decided there needed to be a travel gear site focused on the needs of a wandering female.

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Gear We Use


Packing Cubes – Organize your luggage with the lightweight, durable and compressible Eagle Creek Pack-It Specter Compression Cubes.

Backpacks + Daypacks

Pacsafe – Since they come with extra theft-resisting features, Pacsafe bags make you a more confident traveler. We especially love this bag.

Sea to Summit – Of all the Sea to Summit products, our most recommended is the fits-in-your-palm, super packable Ultra-Sil Daypack.

Personal Care

Nalgene Toiletry Bottles – These leak-free toiletry bottles and tubs come in all sizes – even super tiny, helping minimalists pack it all without bulk.

Turkish Towels – They’re thinner than most travel towels, and they actually cover your body! We can’t get enough of Turkish towels for travel.


Speakeasy Supply Co. – They make the awesome hidden pocket infinity scarves that are perfect for stashing secret cash, lip balms, and passports.

Anatomie – Anatomie travel pants come with luxury prices, but they offer many benefits for travelers. See our review of the famous Skyler pants.

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Reader Interactions


  1. Lola says

    Hi Brooke!
    Thanks for your article. Last August, I felt exactly the same. I was kind of happy to be back to France, in my room, sleeping in my own bed after more than 11 months, but I realized I survived with what I packed for my study abroad in Seattle and that I didn’t miss any of my belongings I left home. So same.. I did a big cleaning! I think it’s good not to be attached to things too much if you like traveling. It makes it easier to pack and leave things behind (even though I can get attached to some clothes sometimes 😉 )

    • Brooke says

      That’s a very similar experience, Lola! It’s also good to have fewer things in your life because you actually use them more often and get your money’s worth 🙂

  2. Tammy P says

    I loved this!!!! I keep avoiding the growing mound of shoes and STUFF I keep meaning to try on or pair up.. it’s almost as though it is robbing from me! I need to set myself free soon!

  3. Sarah says

    I just got back from a two and a half week trip to Europe, and I’m in the middle of purging everything now as a result of living out of a backpack for that time. It’s nice to have more variety in clothing and shoe choices, but I’ve definitely realized I don’t need everything I have. It’s a really freeing feeling!

  4. Stef_D says

    Nice article! I can also recommend selling the purged items via online auction to help fund your next adventure. I’ve been doing this to help fund my upcoming trip to Hawaii & SF, and the money I’ve raised so far has already paid for my AirBnB stays!

  5. Natasha says

    I’ve been watching lots of minimalist videos the past few months and I’ve been slowly purging for the past few years but have only started to get close to where I want to be recently. I’m planning a 2 week trip to Belgium later this year and planned the clothes I’ll be taking way in advance. Since making my list I have almost ignored all my other clothes because I just don’t need or like them as much as my travel capsule wardrobe.

    • Brooke says

      Well that’s a good sign that you’re packing smart if you love everything you picked for the capsule wardrobe more than your normal wardrobe! 🙂

  6. Ashley says

    Oh man, haven’t we all been there!? The first thing I did after returning from Asia was purge 16 (16!!!) big black garbage bags of stuff from my apartment. STUFF weighs you down! 😉

  7. Heather Sinclair says

    Hi Brooke,
    That is so *exactly* how I felt after living abroad for two years! I came home and at first it was like Christmas: my stuff! my stuff! I have…so much stuff.
    In the past year I’ve sold off, donated, consigned, recycled, and given away most of my things. You are so right about it being freeing: no looking at a stuffed-full closet, no worrying about where to store my crap while I’m away, no wondering where things are because I don’t have much.
    I wrote a post about it too, on my blog. It’s about how to start becoming minimalist.
    Keep going! You’re on the right path!

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